Reality Check

Over the past few weeks, I have observed with keen interest the number of advocates suddenly springing up on the popular social media site, we all love to call Twitter.

Now as much as this is commendable, I cannot help but feel this is just like every other trend that occurs on twitter, the popular band wagon effect if you will.

Twitter being the virtual world it is, allows for everyone to develop an alter ego and appear to be genuinely concerned with various topics plaguing our society as we know it, and in this case am referring to domestic violence and rape.

For the whole of 2013, a day never went by and you would not see either a news report or newspaper headline informing us of yet another case of rape, domestic abuse, and child molestation.

These reports were read, and treated as news, the papers, blogs and various information websites had a field day, they got more hits than they could count, and they realized one thing, “this stuff sells” and thus they went all out to get more stories, not because they genuinely cared, but because if offered them the opportunity of constant viewer ship, I mean who doesn’t love a good story.

The blogs and online news papers weren’t the only ones who realized this, some individuals on twitter also realized this and thus decided to cash in on it, since it had become a hot topic, handles began springing up, and individuals who had not before now ever given a thought to this menace, suddenly became experts on the subject, tweeting day and night, about how “we all must rise up”, while sitting in their homes and eating doughnuts while watching their follower numbers swell by the minute.

Now a simple question needs to be asked, how many of these handles and their handlers have an idea of what domestic violence, rape and child abuse means?

How many have ever been in the same room with any of these victims?

The answer to that is simple, very very few, you could easily liken them to back seat drivers or those who play soccer on their couches, and wouldn’t know what a football was even if it hit them in the face.

They talk with so much authority on subjects they know nothing about, and at the end of the day pat themselves on the back for some false sense of achievement.

There are those who work in the physical, who put themselves on the line to ensure people get justice, to ensure lives are saved, to ensure children grow up in wonderful homes devoid of sexual and emotional abuse by making themselves available 24 hours a day to educate, and enlighten these children, the parents and the society at large.

We have people who constantly work daily with abused women in different shelters to help give them some semblance of a normal life.

We have people who get down and dirty to find rapists who destroy lives of individuals, and also endeavour to work with the victims, they sit, eat and talk with them, they help to counsel them, they ensure they receive the medical aid they require.

And at the end of it all, they do not congratulate themselves, no, they go home and ask themselves the simple question, why did this happen.

Advocacy is not a popularity contest, neither is it a means to gain notoriety, because while you brag about your so called accomplishments, what do the victims do?

Do we now use them and the cause as a means to an end?

You don’t have to like this piece, that not withstanding, there must be a reality check.

In closing I’ll leave you with these two foods for thought.

A mouse climbed on the back of an elephant to cross a narrow bridge, it was a shaky cross, but when they got across the mouse quickly said to the elephant, “WE” rocked that bridge.

In war not all soldiers fight, some lay in the trenches preserving their lives, but when war stories are told, they say “WE” gave them hell, and unfortunately no one takes a census of who shot how many bullets.

It’s time for a reality check.

Written By Arome Ameh (The Priest)

Posted by Arome Ameh (The Priest) From WordPress for Android


6 thoughts on “Reality Check

  1. Damilola says:

    Atimes when I go through my TL,I read soooooo many deep stuff on rape,domestic violence,child abuse,etcetera and I’m like-why exactly are things still the way they were? I guess we have more of talkers than doers and pointing fingers to anyone is just plain hypocrisy. Everyone has a part to play. Speaking out&making noises are baby steps. Action is the major step.

  2. True Grit says:

    Now this is something worth reading
    All you fake noise makers on twitter
    Read it n weep

  3. akinlade says:

    God bless the writer for this piece
    Finally someone with guts has decided to speak up

  4. Reblogged this on CareerConcept and commented:
    Indeed a reality check is needed.

  5. So so true my Brother. My advise is to those given to these causes to continue without being discouraged. As is d norm,those that came in for the fame n glory sharing will soon fade away and the workers in the field will still be there.
    Let not the hearts of the true workers be discouraged. Keep on doing and salvaging our society.
    Kudos Arome and ur team.

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